Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher's Marriage: How It Turned Toxic
11/21/2011 AT 01:00 PM EST
As a result, the marriage "[had] been deteriorating for a long time," a friend of Kutcher, 33, tells PEOPLE in this week's cover story. "Ashton was ready to end it, [but] he wanted to wait for Demi to actually do it. He loved her but couldn't live with her. "
Moore, 49, "really wanted to save the marriage but couldn't deal with the pain of his cheating," adds the friend.
"They were fed up with each other," a second source tells PEOPLE.
Several friends note that the age gap between the former power couple – who are worth an estimated $290 million – caused Moore to doubt herself.
"If anyone was uncomfortable with the age difference, it was Demi, not Ashton," says a Kutcher pal. "She drove him crazy after a while with questions and doubts."
For much more on Demi and Ashton's tattered marriage, pick up this week's issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands now