Roberto Martinez and Ali Fedotowsky at their last public appearance Nov. 3
11/22/2011 at 04:00 PM EST
Ali Fedotowsky and her fiancé Roberto Martinez openly showed their love for one another before they split
But during the months since the duo's romance unfolded in 2010 on season 6 of the reality show – which culminated with a romantic seaside proposal
on the season finale – there have been some hints of trouble along the way.
There's no way around it – it's just never a good sign when a couple puts their wedding on hold
. "When we actually did have a date that worked for us [last August], I found out that I had to have knee surgery
," Fedotowsky said in October. "No wedding is simple but this wedding is even more complicated."
The couple answered rumors of relationship turbulence
with proclamations of their love – but doth they protest too much? "In my mind, Roberto is my husband," Ali had said. Noting that they live together and do everything together, she elaborated after their wedding postponement, saying in October, "At this point we're not planning a wedding. Does that mean we're fighting? No. Does that mean we're miserable? Absolutely not! We're happy where we are."
They managed to put together the trip of a lifetime back to Bora Bora. Martinez organized an anniversary trip to the island
for a week that Fedotowsky later called "so romantic." Afterward she insisted, "I still feel so lucky. We're so happy we found each other." Yet she still wouldn't nail down a wedding date: "I'm going to plead the fifth," she said at the time. "Not ready to share any news yet."
Why wasn't there a wedding date? Fedotowsky had all sorts of reasons. "We had a very short courtship and we only knew each other nine weeks before we got engaged," she said in October, shortly before their final public appearance together on Nov. 3. "We are still figuring out our lives as individuals." Then there was the seasonal excuse: "I had no idea how much would be involved in planning a spring wedding," she said last year.
Six months into their engagement, the couple copped to fighting
about things as minor as Wii bowling – and said they were slowing wedding plans down. Once they moved in together in San Diego, Calif., "We definitely have arguments," Fedotowsky said at the time, "but we always make up afterwards and realize how much we love the other person."