01/30/2012 at 11:15 AM EST
She may be headed for the altar on her hit show Revenge
, but Emily VanCamp, who plays Emily Thorne (and swears she is nothing like her character), is still looking for "the one" in real life.
Most recently connected to Vampire Diaries
star Joseph Morgan
, VanCamp tells Canada's Flare magazine
distance is to blame for their breakup.
"I'm working non-stop in L.A., he's working in Atlanta. It kind of makes it impossible," she says in the March cover story. "It doesn't take away from the love that two people have, and I think he's extraordinary."
Another extraordinary thing: Juggling two suitors on Revenge
– humble Jack (Nick Wechsler) and current fiancé, uber-rich Daniel Grayson (Josh Bowman) – but that doesn't mean life imitates art for VanCamp.
"It's all about making me laugh. I can be quite serious sometimes so laughing is key," she says of what she looks for in the perfect boyfriend. "I think it's important to be with a guy who has a strong sense of integrity. That's how I was raised, and that's something I look for. And humility. I think people who lack humility are really annoying."
More annoying than meddling mother-in-law Victoria Grayson (Madeleine Stowe)? There are a pair of, according to Entertainment Weekly
, jaw-dropping episodes in February we'll just have to wait and see!