03/15/2012 at 09:00 AM EDT
has been married
for nearly two years, but making the effort to look good for hockey-pro hubby Mike Fisher hasn't gotten old.
"I want to look sexy for him," the country starlet, 29, tells Self
magazine in its April issue. "And I appreciate that he wants to look nice for me, too."
And it sounds like her efforts are working.
"I get texts from Mike when I'm on a red carpet that read, 'You're so hot,' " Underwood says. "I like that. Words of affirmation mean a lot to me."
Although there are times when Fisher, 31, questions the short length of some of his wife's wardrobe choices, Underwood says, "He would never tell me I can't do or wear something or make me feel bad."
Even so, Underwood says, "I’m a married lady now, so I try to be respectful of my husband.
But life with her significant other isn't entirely
flawless for Underwood, who told PEOPLE
in September that having a husband is better than people warned.
"[Mike] would rather go out to restaurants than eat at home," she griped. "It makes me mad! I really enjoy
cooking and eating together at home. If he's watching TV and I'm cooking, I'm like, 'Hey, you're being lazy, come help!' "