Jennifer Lopez's Manager Wishes She Didn't Date 'Obsessive Guys'

By Dahvi Shira

03/15/2012 at 05:30 PM EDT

Jennifer Lopez moved on quickly after her split from Marc Anthony and is getting serious about boyfriend Casper Smart. But someone close to the superstar would prefer she take things more slowly.

"The thing that I always sort of wished is that she would give herself time to just naturally meet someone, instead of having obsessive guys pursue her," Lopez's manager Benny Medina tells Vogue of his client.

"The ease which that obsession becomes a relationship I think sometimes works against her ability to have a real meaningful relationship."

Lopez, as demonstrated by a January Tweet, isn't affected by the 18-year gap between her and Smart, 24.

Jennifer Lopez

Mert Alas and Marcus Piggott / VOGUE

"We talked about it and she was like, 'It's not even the age, Benny,' " Medina says. "'It's actually that I just came out of a relationship where I felt like I was kind of not getting what I needed. And I'm open!' "

Lopez went on to tell Medina she is looking for "somebody who steps in right now and is actually touching me in a [meaningful] way."

Even though Medina wishes Lopez would go about getting into relationships differently, he believes that Smart isn't just some short-term rebound romance.

"[Jennifer] never half does anything," he says. "When she commits to anything in her work, her life or her relationships, she is in it."