06/22/2012 at 03:00 PM EDT
Despite arriving via skateboard, entrepreneur Jef Holm, of St. George, Utah, got off to a slow start with The Bachelorette
's Emily Maynard. But when the 27-year-old spoke with reporters Thursday, he explained how that pace was all part of his master plan.
You seemed to proceed with caution from the beginning.
When I first got to the house, I realized every guy was going full steam ahead for Emily, surrounding and swarming her. That's not how I am with girls. I was the only guy who played it cool and wanted her [to know she was] going to have to fight for and pursue me, too.
You wanted to kiss her in Bermuda, but held off until London. Why?
I wasn't ready to take it to the next level. If we developed feelings, I want them to [go] both ways.
Do you think it put you behind?
I didn't feel like I had to catch up. All the guys thought I was crazy and blowing it, but didn't realize Emily and I were sharing looks back and forth ... We started off slowly and developed a really good friendship. As time goes on, that friendship turns into more and more of a romance.
What did you like about Emily?
She's the most amazing girl I've ever met. I had no idea how well spoken and smart she is. She's a great mom – patient, loving, good in difficult situations, composed, sassy, sarcastic. She's always herself and doesn't care if cameras are watching her. And she's gorgeous.
What are your feelings on becoming a stepdad?
I want to skateboard and play soccer with [Ricki] and that's something Emily and I connected over. I can't wait to be a dad. At this point on the show, in Prague, I could definitely see myself being a father to Ricki and a husband to Emily.
If it's not you, who would make the best husband to Emily?
There were some amazing guys there. I think the world of Arie
. Sean is a faithful, genuine guy. Chris and Doug are great. Now that Ryan is gone
, everybody is there for the right reasons.
Give us a tease for next week's episode.
As I got a date in London, my time for another date isn't really up but [we] do get to spend some time together. This is a huge pivotal moment in our relationship. And there's a big, surprise elimination.
If you don't wind up with Emily, would you be the next Bachelor?
I learned a lot about myself and met an amazing person so I'm glad I went, but probably not. I'm kind of done with the whole dating on TV thing.