You hear people on fad diets say, "I'm not even hungry" or "I don't even work out" – both are lies.
A few weeks after I started counting my calories, I knew it was time to get to the gym. I have done this many times. I know how to work out, get on the treadmill and run.
That week, my sister-in-law Linda wrote on Facebook, "Don't keep doing the same thing and expect a different result." Now she wasn't writing it to me personally, and normally when reading a post like that I would be like, "Ugh, that's a lame, annoying post."
But this time I was like, "OMG, she's so right!"
Again, I am turning 40 in February, and as much as I think I know, I have spent my entire life being overweight so obviously I don't know how to lose weight.
I admit to being lucky enough to have a trainer. I know when I read that people have trainers I normally react like, "Of course they do – they can pay someone to get them skinny."
That's only half right: I can pay someone, but they can't make me skinny or even make me go to the gym.
The first couple of weeks I didn't want to meet my trainer Keith Anthony at the gym. I made Keith come to my home. I felt so out of shape and thought that until I was strong and skinny I didn't want to be seen at the gym.
Two weeks in, I knew that I could get more done by meeting him at the gym three times a week instead of at my house. I quickly noticed at the gym no one was looking at me; they were all looking at themselves. Please keep that in mind if you're just starting out.
I started very slow with Keith, but I was doing stuff I have never done in all my 40 years of "working out." We did weights – lots of weights that I felt didn't burn calories like cardio but I was seeing results. I kept with it.
Courtesy Marissa Jaret Winokur
The Friends & Family Network
We all know people say that finding a friend to work out with is key – that is the truth. I found as many friends as possible, and they all like different things.
I have one friend that won't join a gym and hates exercising, so we walk around a park and talk for about an hour once a week. I have another friend that is in such great shape that all she wants to do is this crazy, hard class, "Drenched." It took me months to even step into that class and it still scares me! I love this class called "Burn 60" that's half cardio, half weight training. My niece loves to dance, so we found a Zumba class and, no joke, a ballet class that she likes.
I have stopped meeting friends for lunch and now meet them for walks. And every day I find someone to hike with. In L.A. I am very lucky that all you have to do is find someone to hike up a canyon with. I like hiking with "talkers," or I wear earphones and just veg my brain for that hour.
Trying new things is hard and going to classes harder, but check your ego at the door and just choose to have fun and try something new. There will be things you hate, but there will be things you love. I am not a yogi – I learned that fast – but yoga is amazing and I have watched people's spirits and bodies change from it.
The workout run-down for me was serious: For the first six months, I worked out twice a day, every day. Now it's once a day, five days a week with weekends off for "family day."
And I've definitely tried to incorporate my family into this new lifestyle. I play soccer with my son Zev and swim with my husband. We walk easy canyons together. I have had a hard time changing their eating habits, but playing a game a basketball together was welcomed with open arms!
Look, we all watch The Biggest Loser, and we see them lose weight and we see them in the gym. There is a reason: as much as it is about food, we have to also work out. I admit I don't love every second that I am doing it, but I do love every second when it's over!