Gretchen Rossi and Slade Smiley
02/14/2013 at 06:00 PM EST
Slade Smiley hasn't put a ring on it – yet.
The reality TV personality's longtime girlfriend
, Real Housewives of Orange County
star Gretchen Rossi, was spotted at Heather McDonald's book launch at Hollywood's Emerson Theater on Wednesday night, sporting some bling on her engagement finger.
But apparently Smiley hasn't popped the question.
"The ring was not from Slade," a source tells PEOPLE, while a second source says when asked about the ring at the event, "Slade danced around the question."
About two years ago, Rossi, 34, told PEOPLE
she was in no rush to head to the altar with Smiley.
"When I first got married, I thought I was going to be married for life," she said. "I thought that was it and it was really hard to fail at that marriage."
But now, although the ring wasn't from him, the first source tells PEOPLE, "They're planning on getting engaged pretty soon."