Carey Lowell and Richard Gere
09/25/2013 AT 02:15 PM EDT
and Carey Lowell have split.
A friend of the couple, confirming that Gere and Lowell have separated, tells PEOPLE, "They'll do everything possible to keep things amicable and put their child first."
A rep for Gere had no comment.
, married for 11 years, have been living apart for some time, with Gere, 64, staying at their property in Bedford, N.Y., and Lowell, 52, at their historic mansion in North Haven, N.Y., the New York Post
, a devout Buddhist
, was said to enjoy his solitude, while Lowell, a former model and actress, enjoyed being more social, the paper reports, noting that the two have been living separate lives.
They wed in 2002 after dating for about seven years and are parents to son Homer
, born in 2000.
They were last seen together publicly in June at a fundraiser
in New York City.
Gere, named PEOPLE's Sexiest Man Alive
in 1999, was previously married to supermodel Cindy Crawford
. Lowell has two previous marriages: to fashion photographer John Stember and to actor-director Griffin Dunne, with whom she has a 23-year-old daughter, Hannah.