Katharine McPhee and Michael Morris
10/29/2013 at 01:35 PM EDT
Ever since photos of her kissing
director Michael Morris hit the Internet, things have been difficult for Katharine McPhee
"This is a very hard time for her," a pal of the actress tells PEOPLE. "She's very upset."
Morris has three children
with his wife, Welcome to the Family
actress Mary McCormack
. And McPhee has been separated from her husband Nick Cokas
for six months.
Now that the news of her relationship has been made public, the former American Idol
sweetheart appears to be at a crossroads.
"Katharine cares about Michael," the pal adds. "But she still cares about Nick too. She didn't mean for anyone to be hurt."