Sofia Vergara (top) and Ellen DeGeneres
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02/04/2014 at 09:45 AM EST
Go big or go home? For Sofia Vergara
, wedding planning isn't that simple.
"The thing is, I don't know what to do," the Modern Family
star, 41, says of her upcoming nuptials with Nick Loeb
in an appearance Tuesday on The Ellen DeGeneres Show
"It's either I do something really big, or I do something really small with Nick and I and my son, and then my mom, and then my cousins, and then it's impossible."
The issue has become more pressing since rumors started flying around that Loeb and Vergara would be having three different weddings. That's not true, Vergara says, but the damage was done.
"It's been awful because since that news came out, all my family is so excited, and they're already planning outfits," she says. "It's like, 'What are we going to do? How are you going to get us there?' … I'm disappointed to have to tell them it's not true. I haven't even planned anything."
Also during the interview, DeGeneres shows the now-famous photo
of Vergara in a thong bikini, taken over the holidays in Mexico. And once again the actress is forced to admit that, yeah, she looks pretty darn good.
"My son took a picture and I saw it, and I was impressed with myself!" she says. "I mean, I'm 41, so you don't take that for granted."