03/25/2014 at 08:00 AM EDT
One of the most moving remembrances of Jim Rebhorn was written by the man himself.
actor, who died Friday at 65,
wrote his own obituary, which was posted Monday to the website of his church,
St. Paul's Lutheran in Jersey City, N.J.
Writing in the third person, Rebhorn explains how each of his family members loved him – and he, in turn, loved them.
Of his wife Rebecca and daughters Emma and Hannah, Rebhorn writes: "They anchored his life and gave him the freedom to live it. Without them, always at the center of his being, his life would have been little more than a vapor. Rebecca loved him with all his flaws, and in her the concept of ceaseless love could find no better example."
Of his career as an actor, Rebhorn wrote that he was "fortunate enough to earn his living doing what he loved … Without his exceptional teachers and the representation of the best agents in the business, he wouldn't have had much of a career."
He concludes: "He was a lucky man in every way."
In a brief introduction to the obituary, the church remembered one of its most cherished brothers.
"At St. Paul's," the church wrote, "he will be remembered not so much for his many screen and stage accomplishments as for his firm faith, his strong leadership, his care for others, and his unfailing good humor."