Which is exactly how Moore seems to like it these days. While more than a dozen police officers were needed in Prague to contain fans outside a crystal shop where Moore, Willis and the kids were learning the art of glassblowing, she goes largely unnoticed in Hailey. She revels in her stable two-year romance with Whitcomb, 30, an Aspen native who lives in a rented apartment in Hailey. (Says a pal: "Oliver and Demi admire each other's strengths. She's a classy lady, and he's a grounded guy.") She has not one but two local coffee shops serving up her favorite 20-oz. double-skinny lattes with nonfat milk which she hits in between carting her kids from school to horseback riding lessons, gymnastics classes and soccer practice. And she even gets to dabble in a little showbiz: In January the audience at nearby Ketchum's nexStage Theater was surprised to see Moore stroll onstage for an unbilled performance in Dinner with Friends as a wife helping to counsel another couple through a breakup. "She looked really healthy," says a theater volunteer. "She was great."

From diva to den mother

To locals who have seen Moore up close for years, the transformation from diva to den mother has been remarkable -- especially since her 1998 separation from Willis (they divorced after 13 years in 2000). "As a couple," says one of Moore's Idaho friends, "they were self-involved and competitive about their careers. They used to be surrounded by masseuses and nannies. If there was a play date, it was usually handled by the nanny." When Moore did oversee an event -- like the 1997 wedding of her nanny Madison Myers -- it was pure Hollywood, says the friend. "There were something like 10 adult bridesmaids and 10 child bridesmaids, all in black gowns," she recalls. The wedding was delayed two hours, in large part, she adds, "because Demi was getting her hair extensions done." Just the sight of her in early March at a Ketchum ice rink-sitting with two of her daughters, Whitcomb and 500 other fans who had paid $7 each to watch an amateur hockey game -- was enough to convince one spectator that her highfalutin days are done. "She spent the whole time playing with a friend's baby, hoisting the child in the air and smiling," he says. "Years ago I saw her here, and she came in through a back entrance and sat apart. This time she waded into the throng and left through the same exit as everyone else."