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Teaming With Love

Thursday February 27, 2003 11:06 AM EST

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After they married in April 2000, they turned immediately to IVF to try to get Lunden pregnant. "I think we went through five attempts," says Lunden. "They were disappointments, obviously, and big ones. I love being pregnant, and I wanted to do it so Jeff could have that experience." About a year ago, Konigsberg told her, "I really think time is of the essence." Hoping to maintain a biological connection, they decided to investigate surrogacy first. "Adoption wasn't the next step for us, which is funny because my brother Jeff is adopted," says Lunden. After doing research on the Internet and speaking with friends who had enjoyed positive surrogate experiences, they made an appointment at the Center for Surrogate Parenting (CSP) in Encino, north of Los Angeles. The choice of venue was deliberate: unlike most states, California favors the intended parents should a custody dispute arise.

During six hours of interviews with the center's staff, the couple voiced their concerns. "How can you be assured that (the surrogate) is clean-living and not smoking or drinking?" Konigsberg asked. Lunden wondered, "Do you have to worry about the person keeping the baby?" Their concerns eased when they learned that each month CSP screens hundreds of applicants, from which only six are selected. "The surrogates have had their own biological children, and they are financially solvent," says Konigsberg. "The center makes sure everyone is on the same page." After discussing how much contact the pair wanted with the surrogate before, during and after the birth, the staff decided Bolig was the best candidate for them.

Then Lunden and Konigsberg needed to convince Bolig that they were the right couple for her. "We sat down and wrote Deborah a letter," says Lunden. "I was nervous." She needn't have been. "In the letter the overall feeling was that they loved children," says Bolig. Last August Lunden and Konigsberg traveled to Cincinnati. "Talk about the ultimate blind date!" says Lunden. Both women remember feeling an immediate bond. "Once I got over 'Oh my God, it really is Joan Lunden,' I forgot they were a high-profile couple," says Bolig. "I thought they were a really loving, wonderful couple." Pete says he found them "extremely down-to-earth and easy to talk to."

Over the course of that lunch, Lunden and Konigsberg realized that Deborah, a proofreader for a bookbinding company, was in this for more than the roughly $22,000 she will earn as a CSP surrogate. (For Lunden and Konigsberg, the tab will be closer to $65,000 when medical and legal costs are factored in.) She told them that at 25, she first read about surrogacy and "knew that I wanted to do it." So much, in fact, that prior to marrying Pete in 1988, she expressed her interest. Last February Deborah delivered twin boys for a British couple. "At the birth, I felt such pride," she recalls. "I just created a family for them!" Lunden says she and Konigsberg "liked that Deborah had gone through it before, understood it, knew what she was getting into." Lunden left the lunch convinced that "Deborah would take care of these children like they were her own."