"I'm not sure where I am going to be living in the next few months, so I have to get that settled first," the actress, 46, tells InStyle when asked by a reader about her wedding plans.
The Oscar winner may well end up in France, where she and her French fiancé can give Berry's 4-year-old daughter Nahla a quieter life, away from the pressures of Hollywood.
"It's the appeal of privacy and a greater sense of safety for Nahla," the Oscar winner says. "I don't want her to grow up around the tabloids. Because we are followed all the time, she is starting to feel like she is somehow special, and of course she is, but I want her to understand that she's special because of who she is, not because she was born into this celebrity blender."
Berry has suffered through a tough custody battle with Nahla's father, Gabriel Aubry. "There is turbulence, bit this too shall pass," she tells InStyle.
When the time is right to tie the knot again, Berry – twice divorced, from David Justice and Eric Benét – knows how she wants her wedding to be. "I do know it will be very small," she says. "I haven't been to many weddings, but I went to one this weekend with 250 guests. I thought, Wow – so this is a wedding, huh? I've never had that, nor have I wanted that. I wasn't even trying to catch the bouquet!"
Berry says Martinez is perfect for her. "He's silly, a clown, and very much the life of the party, which is good for someone like me," she says. "Danny Downer ... been there, done that. Now I like Louie Lightfoot!"
As for the whole idea of a third marriage, Berry admits: "It's another one of those never-say-never things. I'm a hopeless romantic, and I won't stop till I get it right."