She should know.
The star of Bravo's hit reality series, Millionaire Matchmaker, said she met her soul mate, handsome former baseball player David Krause, when she finally figured out what was preventing her from finding love.
"Two years ago, I was depressed because I hadn't found the true love of my life," Stanger, 52, told PEOPLE Saturday at the Ladies Luxury Luncheon that her close friend, former Real Housewives of New York star Jill Zarin, hosted in Southampton.
"I was like, 'What's wrong with me?' " said Stanger. "I'm smart. I make money. I'm pretty. What's going on?' I told Jill, who said, 'Something is running in your unconscious that is preventing you from finding love.' "
She found the answer when she discovered positive, subliminal messages that helped her overcome subconscious, negative thoughts she carried that stopped her from finding the right guy for her, she said. "Forty eight hours later, David walked into my life."
To help others find love, she has partnered with Dr. Joe Vitale, the law of attraction expert who was featured in the 2006 movie The Secret and famed hypnotist Dr. Steve G. Jones, (who appeared on Bravo's Below the Deck series on July 8 and on her show) to create dating site www.attractingasoulmate.com.
"The unconscious is the bus driver and if it has no map, it has no direction and that's why you can't figure things out," she said at the event, which benefited the Eric Trump Foundation, which will donate all proceeds to the St. Jude's Children's Research Hospital. "My goal is to find everyone love."
Stanger said she is about to start shooting the next season of Matchmaker, which is "all changes. You're going to be shocked in the first episode at all the changes coming up. Shocked."
What hasn't changed is her ever-deepening relationship with Krause. They are not engaged yet – she was sporting the diamond-encrusted David Yurman promise ring that Krause gave her – but she said, "we are living together. Things are great. I'm really happy."